The Big “O” for October

What is it about “The Big O”? The ORGASM…. the finale, the statement of success when it comes to sex. Why does there need to be so much pressure? 

Don’t get me wrong, an orgasm is amazing- solo, mutual, group- and yes, so many ways to have an orgasm in our bodies. I get it, but what I don’t get, and not sure I ever will, is the importance we place on the Big O. 

I work with individuals and couples every day focusing on the importance of a comfortable, pleasurable (and of course consensual) sexual experiences. IF an orgasm is included, great, but if it is not, that is more than okay too. 

I would love for you to give yourself, and your partner/s, permission to not focus so much on the “O” and focus on your breath, your bodies, the senses in the sexual experience, then the outcome of maybe an orgasm, or maybe not.  

Let’s change the BIG O from Orgasm- to Opportunity. An opportunity to be real, to be vulnerable, to be seen and to give and receive pleasure.