March 2026- Mindful March
As we enter the third month of TWENTY TWENTY SEX (2026), I wanted to recommend six books (in no particular order) that have helped me on my sexual journey both personally and professionally.
The Love Prescription by John Gottman, PhD, and Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD
Smart Sex by Dr. Emily Morse
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, PhD
With Sprinkles on Top by Stefani Goerlich, PhD
Sex Talks by Vanessa Marin, LMFT with Xander Marin
The Ethical Slut by Janey W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
Each of these books have opened my eyes to owning our sexuality, exploring our sexuality, communicating with our partner about our sexual needs and wants, and knowing that we all deserve pleasure.
The Love Prescription is a very easy read. It covers “seven days to more intimacy, connection, and joy” and reminds us that the very small bids for connection to our partner/ loved ones makes such a huge difference. Whether it is saying thank you, giving a compliment, or reaching out and giving touch, each gesture shows the person we care about them and we are grateful that they are in our life.
Smart Sex is a very straight forward, yet fun, read to “boost your sex IQ and own your pleasure.” Dr Emily shares her 5 pillars of sex including Embodiment, Health, Collaboration, Self Knowledge and Self Acceptance. If we do not have sexual intelligence, how are we supposed to know what we need and want?
Come As You is an absolute go to for someone wanting to learn more about the two main types of desire- spontaneous and responsive. It breaks down our anatomy, how our bodies show desire and how we respond to pleasure. It uses a scientific background of research, as well as modern day case examples of what we all experience in our sexual bodies so we do not feel as alone.
With Sprinkles on Top is a fabulous book about the mismatched desire we all have with our partners. No two people desire the exact same thing sexually, at the exact same time, as their partner This book is “everything vanilla people and their kinky partners need to know to communicate, explore and connect.” It is a book a couple can read together and feel closer to one another, even with their different levels of desire and sexual adventure.
Sex Talks is a great book to read with your partner as you both navigate how to have very difficult conversations about sex. Vanessa breaks down “the five conversations that will transform your love life” into Acknowledgement, Connection, Desire, Pleasure and Exploration. There are great questions and exercises offered in the book to allow the reader to go one step further with their thoughts.
The Ethical Slut is one of the best titles for a book I have ever heard. As women we are shamed in being “too” sexual, and also shamed for not being sexual enough. This book advocates for women to be the sexual goddess they deserve to be, and own their pleasure. Slut is no longer a bad four letter word.
If you are interested in speaking more about any of these books, or anything else for that matter, please always feel free to contact me!